Am 28yrs old & my first encounter with violence was during my very 1st year
in School or Infants as we call it in 1988.
What I remember was feeling angry because of a random attack by a fellow classmate; he hit me for no reason. After the crying & being separated comforted by the Teacher; he did it again. Yet, what occurred in me was a feeling was pure rage.
I just began to slap him again & again & again; The Bully became the victim.
He was curled up in the cloakroom; crying until the same Teacher whom looked after me stooped my attack. When asked why I did it I shouted
"He HIT ME".
I can still instantly connect to the pure feeling of punishing him in that righteous manner.
My classmates along with Teachers we're in shock for the rest of the afternoon. This gave me the realization that being violent isn't popular or impresses people.
Both The Bully & victim (me) we're separated from the rest of the class not in a physical separate desks manner but cold shoulder approach.
I got collected by my Farther who's was told about the incident; he just said in his typical Yorkshire attitude...
"Shouldn't 'ave started with me Lad, should he".
The Teacher actually agreed* [this point is vital, I'll refer to it later].
Later on in my Life my Farther would tell me stories of people in his Industrial Factory Age of working having fights with Management.
Whilst this reads as shocking; it created a natural order equilibrium as Line Management wouldn't exploit the workforce.
If they did then it would no longer be Employee & Manager; it would be Man vs. Man.
Yet, the age of Industry has left the Western World & re-located to China thus we live along with work in the Age of Information... different attitudes (some for the better... Sexual Equality being one) different type of work.
The following day everything was normal expect one classmate called me possibly out of both respect & fear... Panthro Which as the day progressed the majority called me this title expect The Bully.
This is the reason why I was given this nickname & the first in the class to have one.
Watch from 3mins : 48secs (it fades for a short 2second break but returns)
This type of Children's Cartoon wouldn't be allowed in this early 21st Century due to it's pure action based on conflict & violence.
This named stayed with me till the end of Junior school.
Whilst, it was a cool name it was born out of another child connecting me with a tough & violent cartoon character. Due to The Bully feeling pain & humiliation he never repeated his random acts on violence on anybody.
Fights occurred afterwards I might have another two during my time in the Infant & Junior School but the lesson was the pain of getting hit isn't nice unlike what's seen on the TV or Movies.
So, by experiencing such nerves, distress, possible humiliation & pain fighting sort of didn't occur by the time Secondary School happened. The slap's & fists we're replaced by very foul language usually about each others Mother's inspired by the humour of watching...
Then by 12yrs old; you start getting interested in the opposite sex. Girls simply aren't into Boy's that get satisfaction in dishing punches on others; as these types are emotionally backward.
If fights did occur; then they we're allowed to happen in the Playground for a manner of time until the Teacher on duty skilfully broke it up at a stage when both fighters could claim victory thus feeding both Teenage ego's.
That was then, what happens now is...
Due to what I classify as the Feminisation of Western Society; violence / self-defence is frowned upon. A 'Social faux pas' would be the best description.
Due to compensation culture; School's have no choice to forget that *1980's attitude as mentioned earlier & have zero-tolerance even if a Child does so in Self-Defence.
The following 2011 incident from Australia; has gone viral around the world [it's Portuguese subtitles / English audio]:
Yet, BOTH students have been warned about their conduct. When it's obvious that the only one whom should be disciplined is the arrogant Bully.
In the UK; it's now common for students to face expulsion if a fight is 'deemed serious'. These would have been expected just 15yrs previously as a stage of progression.
Currently; in the UK our Children are becoming more violent yet violence is deemed as wrong especially within Compulsory Education. My opinion is that whilst not to be promoted violence around Children needs to be seen as part of the growing process. Elements of human nature whilst not nice are confrontation & violence; the way to solve this is to first expect what we are & we're we came from...
If people didn't get turned on by violence why do people still watch Films about it or have friends round to watch the big Pay-Per-View Boxing Fight.
Some examples that we all are popular within contemporary culture...
That Pencil ain't to complete his Newspaper Crossword..!!
This is perhaps my favourite WWE Match of ALL-Time; simply cause it's vicious:
Feminisation & pacifism is attempting to eradicate these urges in people yet they cannot be controlled. The worrying aspect is Adults are now becoming violent with more regularity especially on a the Saturday night out.
The Booze & Illegal Narcotics play a massive role but they allow the what's inside a person to be released.
Whilst this movement of feminisation & pacifism has good intentions; it's simply having the opposite effect. Then people feeling isolated due to this Capitalist Target Driven Materialistic Being Young / Trendy Vanity obsessed society; people are angry or doubt others & more worrying themselves.
This results in anger.
The ONLY way Human's as a species can evolve is if we expect everything about our collective Psychology... we are greedy, selfish, lustful, jealous, lazy, hard, ignorant, working, disciplined, kind, insightful etc etc...
Yet we try to repress the negative by saying this or that isn't Socially expectable yet the major powers of the Western World fight War's / Conflicts with their Military.
The ironic thing about Violence in School's are the promotion of the Armed Forces in School as a possible career path in the majority of the Western world..!!
The current UK Government want to promote former Military staff to become School Teachers; they claim to re-gain discipline that's been lost especially within areas of poverty. So... people that have been trained to be aggressive & kill on order are now going to be teaching in School's we're children fighting results in possible suspension / expulsion?
This latter point sums up the hypocritical stance that exhibits in the Western World e.g open expression of Pornography is frowned upon yet when major corporations use sexual images in their Ad's it's deemed acceptable even if they are broadcast during Prime Family viewing Time?
The following from America; a nation that has created Mixed Martial Arts Cage fighting & has an obsession with Gun's amongst other violent activities.
Yet, a Mother that demands her Son fight to protect their Family Honour is criticized?
For all the high moral standards; what should occur if a random Man insults a Women in a public situation. The Women expects either the Man she is with or Men in her vicinity to defend her honour.
So much for 21st Century; let's have a conversation & review your behaviour then.
The strangest individual in this is President Barack Obama; why?
In the same month; he authorizes as Commander In-Chief his Military to use
force in Libya against Colonel Gaddafi.
He begins a national Anti-Bullying Campaign:
If the President views Colonel Gaddafi as being a kinda Bully or more serious kind; why doesn't he start a conversation with him explaining what he's doing is wrong?
Cause am sure the Campaign gives instructions on how to report Bullying & also attempting to show 'why it's not cool to be one'.
So, much for the Noble Institute thinking that giving him the Peace Award might make him more Jimmy Carter than George W. Bush when it comes to Foreign Policy.
Maybe they should ask for it back, perhaps?
Am not saying he shouldn't do anything but the President should of publicly requested a personal meeting with the Colonel to talk about the situation rather than go direct for the attack.
That's approach simply provides evidence why our entire relationship with Violence needs to be understood along with accepted that it's part of who we are for better & worse.